The loss of a loved one comes with emotions that may feel impossible to put into words. However, the stages of grief do just this. Five words, and the stages they describe, have become the common standard for what we may go through when grieving a loss.
In 1969, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross released the book On Death and Dying, containing her Kübler-Ross model, or as we know it today: the five stages of grief (also sometimes called the DABDA model). She created this model from research in the form of interviewing more than 200 individuals with life-threatening illnesses on their experiences.
Let’s take a look at the first 2 phases-
-Denial
-Anger
Followed by the rest in the subsequent posts.
These are some of the emotions we may go through as we learn to come to terms with the unbearable pain of the loss we have suffered.
Not everyone will go through all of these emotions, and you may go through them in any order. Grief is not a linear process. let’s briefly look at them.
Denial
We feel deep shock, we know our loved one has passed, but the pain is so severe that the death seems unreal! Its is also known that at such times of intense grief and sadness, a part of the soul leaves the body as the pain is just too much to bear at that time.
Anger
During this stage, we may feel intense anger. This could be with your loved one that has passed, you may blame them for dying and leaving you. Or you may be angry with yourself, for many different reasons.
You may be angry with Doctors if they died due to illness.
It’s important to remember that anger is not rational at this time, but is a necessary stage of the grieving process.